It is essential for each of us to discover and understand our own way of being. Frequently, in counselling, people often feel frustrated because they don't feel they have the ability to change their situation. It is not always easy to face our problems or seek another's help. Many who first come to counselling report feeling lost, alone, or depressed and many feel confusion and hopelessness about the future. These feelings are very normal yet most people feel as if they are falling apart.